What I Learned From My Dad

My Dad passed away Wednesday morning. As pragmatic as I am, it is difficult to write those words let alone say them.

Several days before Dad left for Heaven, a tree was down on the property, and I needed help clearing it. Since he and I spent many a day with chainsaw in hand moving limbs and clearing brush, I asked him to help me. Some of our best conversations were made over the rumbling of a chainsaw in between cuts. But on this day, Pop was tired. I joked with him that he was just getting lazy in his old age; but something inside of me knew, this was the last time we’d work outside together – and it was.

Arrangements are being made. People are visiting the house, calling, bringing food, and sending love. Friends are so crucial at times like these. I can’t tell you the number of times I heard my Dad say that to those who were grieving and even more, how many times I have repeated his words. And now more than ever, I want to remember all that he taught me.

My Dad was a preacher, but he was a husband and father first. There weren’t two James Franklin’s – what we saw and heard preaching on Sunday mornings was what we saw and heard in our home. He preached what he believed, and he lived it even more. I can’t say I always willingly accepted my Dad’s profession, on the contrary. There were times I hated going to people’s houses. I hated waiting in the car while Pop listened to yet another person’s troubles. Funerals, hospital visits, domestic disputes, loss and sadness – growing up our days were filled with everyone else’s problems – and at times, I resented my Dad’s dedication to it all. While my Dad played baseball with me, taught me how to tie my shoes and ride a bike, bought me my first razor, and kicked my tail when I needed it, he was different from all the other dads. His job called him to do things other dads didn’t have to do.

I asked him one time why he chose that job. He chuckled at me, and with that spark in his eyes which always popped up when he had a point to make, he answered me firmly, “I didn’t choose this, God chose me to do this, and I just obeyed…just obey, Mike.”

And he did obey, living his life in service of others, loving everyone he came in contact with.

I’ve often watched my Dad as he walked in and out of the house, the church, to ballparks, and into his favorite restaurants. Never once have I doubted Who walked beside him. My dad walked with Jesus Christ everywhere he went.

 

The Top 20 Things He Taught Me –

20. Before you open your mouth to give someone advice, listen to what he or she has to say.

19. The hardest lesson in life to learn comes just after you choose NOT to tell the truth.

18. Scraping up your knees comes with learning to ride a bike – it is in the process.

17. When you mess up, go back to the basics. Fundamentals are just as important in life as they are in baseball.

16. When someone is laughing at you – laugh with them.

15. Look people in the eyes when you talk to them.

14. Check the fluids in your automobile or suffer the consequences – it’s a good idea for life too. There’s something to maintenance.

13. If you use someone’s tools or anything from the kitchen – put it back where you found it.

12. Always return something you borrow from someone better than when you borrowed it.

11. Regret is more about what you didn’t do than what you did.

10. You can be the best tasting piece of chocolate in the box, but there will always be someone who doesn’t like chocolate

9. Be the man you would like your daughter to marry.

8. When things are going well, a person’s true character is evident. That’s the time you learn what a person’s priorities are.

7. You don’t always have to start at the beginning, but you do have to start somewhere.

6. It isn’t about impressing people, it is about connecting with them.

5. Life doesn’t happen. Life is…

4. The most powerful name in the universe – JESUS – call on Him.

3. Don’t ever give up on anyone, especially yourself.

2. Forgive, forgive, forgive, and forgive again.

1. Love people – there is something of value in everyone – sometimes you have to dig a little deeper to find it.

 

I love you, Pop. You will be missed. 

 

 

 


16 responses to “What I Learned From My Dad

  • Anthony Franklin

    He was a very wise man!

  • Jacky and Anita

    Our hearts break for you and your family but rejoice for your Dad, he’s home! We love you guys and are praying for you, for Gods strength and presence during the difficult days ahead.

  • Patricia Winklepleck

    Sorry for your loss, what a great tribute to your father, I do remember him always having a smile on his face. So glad that God’s promises are true, Rejoice in the lord alway. Love you all.

  • Linda Passmore

    Pastor Mike,
    Sorry for your loss. Pastor Franklin is shouting in Heaven as I write this all pain gone and victory is won. Praying for you and your family. He was a part of mine and will be missed.But his memory will live on forevery.

  • Teresa Free

    Your dad was a great man as you well know. Our family was very grateful for the many visits he made to our sisters when they were sick. You are very much like him. I hope they have strong coffee in Heaven.

  • scripture7

    We were so saddened to hear of the passing of your dad. We had just began to know him, but during that time he impressed us. Arthur and I are praying for you and your family. Brenda from
    https://headedhome.wordpress.com/

  • Vickie Parker

    Your dad was a special man . He seem to always have a smile for everyone . The last time I saw him was at Walmart in a wheelchair setting were you get them smiling at everyone that came by . His life was his testimony . Went my mom and mother-in-law was in the hospital before they dir he would always come an pray with them . He even Came to there funeral . Thank you James Franklin you will be miss . Vickie Parker

  • Michelle Massey

    Dear Mike and Family,
    Your dad has always been so dear and precious to me and my family♥️. I know you will miss him so dearly until the day of our unity with loved ones in Heaven with our dear Father♥️😇. I sure miss my daddy, Walter Wilson so badly still and my dear sweet Mama, Myrtle Wilson. But to think … they have seen the face of Jesus😇♥️🙏🏼☀️. My prayers, thoughts and love is sent yalls way!! What a wonderfully,beautiful tribute to your dad♥️

  • Karen brown

    Love from the Rick Brown Family

  • Marty Baker

    Mike…. I am sorry for your loss. I know that your Dad was a true “hero” for you. From our days at Lee College, I remember stories about your Dad. May you have the peace of the Lord as your grieve his passing. Sincerely, Marty Baker

  • Betty Spivey

    Mike, your dad is responsible for my fear of dead is gone! When we first started spending a lot of time with he and Mary, Gene and I both begin to have more faith in God thru his talks and teachings. I feel so sad (for my benefit, not his, that I will never see him in person again. I could see his health going down so fast in just the past year, but I did not want to accept it. When he would talk to me about not being any help to anyone, I would immediately stop him and tell him that he just being with us was good enough for me. I know that was selfish but I loved and needed him so much. The hard facts to accept right now for me is that I will never see that sparkle in his eyes when he would tell one of his many stories and memories and never get to have a meal on Sundays after church with him or get a home cooked meal of his veal and gravey. Gosh, I love that man!

  • James Gunn

    Mike, sorry about your dad. He was a great warrior in Gods army he will be missed..prayers for you all.

    Sincerely, James Gunn

  • Jack & Jean Graham

    Jack & I read this and enjoyed it very much. We had the opportunity to share a meal with your parents when we visited. Enjoyed their company tremendously.
    Remembering all of you in our prayers.
    Jack & Jean

  • Debbie Roach

    So sorry for you loss! Beautifully written! Those of us who were raised by a Dad who wslked with God, are very, very blessed! You and your family are in our prayers!

  • Tim Green

    What a testimony for a life lived for our Savior. A true father!!

  • Maryjo

    Sorry for your loss Mike. I have great memories of Uncle James as a kid.

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