“It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.” 1 Corinthians 13:5
The recording you hear inside your head every time his or her name is mentioned is completely normal and very human. He wronged you. She betrayed you. The damage which was done to your trust in people; to your heart; to your surroundings; whatever the case, is difficult to overcome let alone forget!
This verse takes us to the nitty-gritty about LOVE. It isn’t that warm, fuzzy, tingling feeling all the time. Love is a conscious decision. It is an act of saying – though you have wronged me, I am choosing to love you anyway! Love is something you DO…
Henry Drummond wrote a booklet called, “The Greatest Thing in the World.” His writings analyse what Paul meant about LOVE and how we can learn from Paul’s writing. When Drummond discussed verses 4-7 of 1 Corinthians, he described love as “light passing through a prism and being separated out into its various colors.” He believed that just as the colors are separated into component parts, so is the action of love. In order to get the rainbow – all the parts work together individually. Every part is significant.
Forgiveness is more for our heart than the other person. There are times in life when we must choose to love someone at a distance simply because the person hasn’t changed. The way it looks is we no longer dwell on what has been done to us. We protect ourselves from being hurt again by keeping our distance, if necessary, but we choose not to conjure up the hurt and pain in our mind each time the person’s name is spoken. This is only accomplished through the love God has demonstrated.
Demanding? It’s my way or the highway? Sound familiar to any of you.
Love does not demand its own way. There are times when you have to be flexible, compromising, selfless, and offer to others their way. Not your way.
Stephen Grellet, a French-born American missionary wrote, “I shall pass through this world but once. Any good thing therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer it or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”
The reality of life? We have one shot at it. How do you prefer to spend your one shot?
There are times in life when we must give-up our “right” for the “right” of another. When it occurs, we have demonstrated the kind of love Jesus Christ demonstrated on the Cross for our behalf.
Consider the people who have hurt you. Have you forgiven them? Do you keep a record in your heart of the wrong he or she has done? Make an effort to consciously put aside what has been done in love.