2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
Some of you may remember the old commercial for Reese Peanut Butter Cups. One kid is skating down the sidewalk eating a chocolate bar, another is walking around the corner eating from a jar of peanut butter – the two collide…
“You got peanut butter in my chocolate!”
“Well, you got chocolate in my peanut butter!”
Two great tastes, blended together, what a relationship! And the Reese Peanut Butter Cup was born. Now, if one kid had been eating sardines, it would be a different story.
Relationships are tough but very important in our lives. We have relationships with our spouse, our children, our parents, our siblings, our friends, and our co-workers. In blended families there are relationships with stepchildren, stepparents, stepgrandparents, ex-spouses and ex-spouse’s family. Just looking at all the different combinations and knowing there are so many more makes my forehead bead with perspiration. To use back-woods country grammar, “It ain’t easy.”
Have you ever known someone who you had to act differently around? Maybe you felt one way but understood, if he or she knew the truth, you wouldn’t be in a relationship. When you have to sin against your own values and the laws of God to have someone’s approval, you are not equally yoked, and the relationship is out of the will of God. It is far better to be alone and have no relationships than to allow someone to manipulate, control, and force you to behave in a manner you know to be against God’s truths.
Sometimes we think we can change someone. We compromise our own beliefs to establish a relationship believing once the relationship is cemented, we can change that person into thinking as we do. Maybe that’s one of the reasons for the soaring divorce rate.
God wants us to have healthy relationships. He does not want us to be controlled or cut-down or hurt by someone who does not believe in Him. While we must be an example and witness to others, we also must realize that if we are compromising ourselves in order to get “in” with another person, we are doing more harm to God than help.
Be the person God wants you to be. Allow those around you to love you for who you are, not who they want you to be. In all things, never change yourself and your values to accommodate anyone. The God first – God centered relationships – always work out.